the “women can’t win” thing isn’t supposed to mean that women are equally pressured to be feminine and be masculine, wear makeup and not wear makeup, that’s obviously not the case sorry
it’s supposed to mean that even if everything about the way you dress, act, look, etc. perfectly aligns with stereotypical female gender expectations, men will still mistreat you, because putting up with men mistreating you is in fact part of the patriarchy’s expectations of women
(via cumaeansibyl)
